“Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you” Deuteronomy [5:16]
Honor is a big deal to God. The theme of honorruns throughout the pages of Scripture. Not only should we honor God, but we’re also commanded to honor our parents.
In Deuteronomy [5:16], the fifth commandment—to honor our fathers and mothers—is repeated with a blessing, “that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you . . . ” This is a universal command, for all people at all times. And in our culture, which places a high premium on individuality, this command is particularly transformative. Regardless of your parents’ success rating, God commands His people everywhere, “Honor your father and your mother.”
The Hebrew term for honor means literally “a heavy weight” or “to lay it on them.” Far more than surface flattery, biblical honor is a sincere attempt to identify what your parents have done right and praise them for those things.
This does not mean groveling or seeking their approval, making yourself vulnerable to their hurtful behavior, or denying the past. It does mean:
·Choosing to place great value on your relationship with them.
·Taking the initiative to improve the relationship in whatever increments you can.
·Recognizing when they have done some things right.
·Acknowledging the sacrifices they have made for you.
·Seeing them through a lens of compassion and mercy.
·Forgiving them, even “as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians [4:32]).
Written by James MacDonald
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