Modesty can be a difficult topic to discuss with your teenagers. With the standards of society constantly changing with different fads and popular culture determining what is acceptable or in style and what is “outmoded,” “old-fashioned,” or (heaven forbid) “frumpy,” your kids can be faced with a difficult dilemma.
As a parent, it’s important that you care about how your children present themselves. But as you are trying to find the best way to teach them correct principles, here are few approaches to avoid.
Don’t equate her style choices to filth
There’s a meme running around the Internet these days with the quote, “Dear girls, dressing immodestly is like rolling in manure. Yes, you’ll get attention, but mostly from pigs. Sincerely, Real Men.” While the thought from “real men” is hopefully well-meaning, it implies that girls who don’t meet a certain dress standard are disgusting and therefore don’t deserve a “real man.”
It’s true that dressing provocatively sends certain social signals and certain men react to them in unfortunate ways, but equating her decision to something as abhorrent as rolling around in manure is demeaning and can cause harmful long-term shame.
Written by Ben Luthi
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